Self Care

When you’re excited about what you’re doing – whether it’s your D.S. business, a hobby, a new job, etc.,  – you’re typically running on sheer adrenaline.  It’s great for awhile, but eventually what happens?  You burn out.  I’ve been so excited at times, I forget to eat.  I can’t sleep.  I can’t focus on anything except what’s on my mind.

For me, personally, I have to be extra careful.  When I get over-stressed, my body will go into a full-blown Fibromyalgia flair, which can leave me bedridden for hours or days.  My body can’t differentiate between good stress and bad stress – so even good stress will cause a flair.  I’ve grown to accept my limitations and have been forced to honor them – which compels me to share with you what I feel is the most important gift you can give yourself – self care.

Stress kills – from heart attacks and high blood pressure to cancer.  Don’t wait until you have an invisible illness to incorporate healthy habits into your every day life.

What happens when you don’t take care of yourself?  You get stressed.  You get sick.  You get ornery.  You fight with your husband.  You yell at the kids.  The list goes on and on.  At times you turn into a psycho-bitch from hell.  You know what I’m talking about.  We’re all guilty.  It’s as if you don’t even recognize yourself, let alone have the ability to identify how you got there or how to bring yourself back from the abyss.

You absolutely need to find time for yourself.  You need to feed your soul.  Only you know what does the trick for you.  I have ritual every morning – I sit with my coffee until I wake up.  I read.  I get my bearings.  My husband typically doesn’t intrude – as he knows I need my time to wake up.  You might say I’m not a morning person so maybe the poor guy is afraid of me.  At night, I soak in Eucalyptus bubbles & Epsom salts for my Fibro, and it’s my time to unwind and prepare for rest.  I also drop everything throughout the day and either take my dog for a walk, tidy up the house (yes, I enjoy this), or – like today – grab my suit and head to the pool for an hour.

Your body and soul will give you that gentle nudge either through aches and pains in your back from sitting, knots in your stomach from stress, distraction because your mind needs a break, or eye strain from the computer.  Whatever the signs – listen to them.  The more you take care of yourself, the more productive you’ll be.  The more you practice, the better you’ll get.  I’ve practiced so long, I can even drop dead in my bed many days for an afternoon nap.  Not just a light nap, I’m talking a full-blown snoring, sloppy, dreamy sleep that almost makes me feel guilty for the indulgence.

I ask you … what do you need?  What is your body and soul begging for that you’re starving it from?  And why?

The more you can avoid the burn-out, the more you’ll sustain your productivity .  The more sustainable your productivity, the more success you’ll see.  It’s a win-win.

Try it … you’ll like it.


“Be brave, be kind, be bold, be fierce, be YOU”

5 thoughts on “Self Care

  1. desertbargaingirl says:

    What a lovely post. Really what I NEEDED this morning after an eye-opening naturopathic visit yesterday where my doctor took me off all “bad” caffeine, gave me much needed supplements and a “cocktail vitamin” in the rear and told me if I didn’t take care of myself (rest, relaxation, etc.) I would end up with total adrenal failure….not a good thing. I could so relate to your physical struggle. It’s like the mind and body are at odds but if you mess with the body all will fall apart. I so admire all that you accomplish given your limitations and am thankful we met. Keep up the powerful blog writing….you never know who’s life you might change or SAVE!!!

    Thank you my friend. [😘]

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  2. Katie Taggart says:

    I love you for sharing this. Self care is what I need most and I’m not very good at it. I usually push myself until I can’t move…literally. I am working on this and having more balance. It helps to know you struggle and understand the constant pain and fatigue. I love your honesty and friendship.


  3. Tawnee Slegers says:

    Great advice! Seriously, this is hard to do, there are times I will just drive with no destination just to listen to music and let my mind go. Often I feel guilty for taking time fit myself but I’m learning the better mind set moms in the better I benefit my husband and children. Love your blogging! Thanks Jules.


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